happiness vs unhappiness （写完发现很无聊）
07 Jul 2010 4 Comments
research says people are born to be unhappy, but not to be happy..meaning unhappiness is in our genes while happiness is not. so it’s not true that the less unhappiness we have, the happier we are.so we dont avoid or deal with unhappiness in order to be happy. so we are not necessarily happy if we say we are not unhappy. so we can allow ourselves to have unphappiess hanging around.
but the good thing is since it’s not genetic..we can create and/or increase happiness as we wish…some other researcher said there is 10% of our happiness is determined by life circumstances…and it leaves “40% of our capacity for happiness within our power to change”..here are the “strategies” given by this professor…
1. counting your blessings
2. practicing acts of kindness
3. nurturing optimism
4. learning to forgive
5. investing in relationships
6. increasing flow experiences
7. avoiding overthinking
8. savoring life’s joys
9. taking care of your soul
10. committing to your goals
11. using your body: exercise, meditation, smiling, and rest
2. practicing acts of kindness
3. nurturing optimism
4. learning to forgive
5. investing in relationships
6. increasing flow experiences
7. avoiding overthinking
8. savoring life’s joys
9. taking care of your soul
10. committing to your goals
11. using your body: exercise, meditation, smiling, and rest
don’t freak out..though you already know you in fact have to work your ass off to make yourself happy or happier…it would be so much easier if it’s the other way around..meaning..being happy is genetic…so we need genetic transformation..not these intimidating tips that you don’t even know how to fit in…that’s one of the reasons why we have to believe in scientists before they tell us this world is like a black hole that sucks…
so (sorry..i m out of transitional words..it doesnt seem logical)..”to conclude my conclusion”…sadly enough…due to scientific incompetence up to date…unhappiness rules!!
Jul 07, 2010 @ 03:22:41
avoiding overthinking…Hmm~~~~~~It’s difficult, haha
Jul 07, 2010 @ 08:22:54
happiness is a very simple thing while we make it difficult so i think simplicity is a way to happiness.Question is, how to simplify things and thoughts
Jul 07, 2010 @ 12:42:15
hmmmm,,,,do not overthink….so u will feel happy when you are…damn…
Jul 08, 2010 @ 08:07:20
I found medication really helpful. It does help you concentrate on the experience of now and here, to be more aware of self. I do think that people are born to be worry-free, but it’s that that we look for troubles.